copybook 2 / Intimacy, Osho
" Love is a state of your consciousness when you are joyous, when there is a dance in your being. Something starts vibrating, radiating, from your center; something starts pulsating around you. It starts reaching people: it can reach women, it can reach men, it can reach rocks and trees and stars.
When i am talkng about love, i am talking about this love: a love that is not a relationship but a state of being. Always remember: Whenever i use the word LOVE, i use it as a state of being, not as a relationship. Relationship is only a minor aspect of it. But your idea of love is basically that of relationship, as if that is all.
Relationship is needed only because you cant be alone, because you are not yet capable of meditation. Hence, meditation is a must before you can really love. One should be capable of being alone, utterly alone, and yet tremendously blissful. Then you can love. Then your love is no longer need but a sharing, no longer a necessity. You will not become dependent on the people you love. You will share- and sharing is beautiful. " (p.47)
" Relationship is a thing: You cling to it. Relating is a flow, a movement, a process. You meet a person, you are loving because you have so much love to give, the more you give, the more you have. Once you have understand this strange arithmetic of love, that the more you give, the more you have... This is just against the economic laws that operate in the outside world. Once you have known that, if you want to have more love and more joy, you give and share, then you simply share. And whatsover allows you to share your joy with him or with her, you feel grateful to him or her. But it is not a relationship; it is a riverlike flow.
The river passes by the side of a tree, saying hello, nourishing the tree, giving water to the tree...and it moves on, dances on. It does not cling to the tree. And the tree does not say. "Where are you going? We are married! And before you can leave me you will need a divorce- at least a separation! Where are you going? And of you were going to leave me, why did you dance so beautifully around me? Why did you nourish me in the first place? " No, the tree showers its flowers onto the river deep gratefulness, and the river moves on. The wind comes and dances around the tree and moves on. And the tree gives its fragrance to the wind.
This is relating. If humanity is ever going to become grown-up, mature, this will be the way of love: people meeting, sharing, moving, a nonpossessive quality, a nondominating quality. Otherwise love becomes a power trip." (p.49-50)
When i am talkng about love, i am talking about this love: a love that is not a relationship but a state of being. Always remember: Whenever i use the word LOVE, i use it as a state of being, not as a relationship. Relationship is only a minor aspect of it. But your idea of love is basically that of relationship, as if that is all.
Relationship is needed only because you cant be alone, because you are not yet capable of meditation. Hence, meditation is a must before you can really love. One should be capable of being alone, utterly alone, and yet tremendously blissful. Then you can love. Then your love is no longer need but a sharing, no longer a necessity. You will not become dependent on the people you love. You will share- and sharing is beautiful. " (p.47)
" Relationship is a thing: You cling to it. Relating is a flow, a movement, a process. You meet a person, you are loving because you have so much love to give, the more you give, the more you have. Once you have understand this strange arithmetic of love, that the more you give, the more you have... This is just against the economic laws that operate in the outside world. Once you have known that, if you want to have more love and more joy, you give and share, then you simply share. And whatsover allows you to share your joy with him or with her, you feel grateful to him or her. But it is not a relationship; it is a riverlike flow.
The river passes by the side of a tree, saying hello, nourishing the tree, giving water to the tree...and it moves on, dances on. It does not cling to the tree. And the tree does not say. "Where are you going? We are married! And before you can leave me you will need a divorce- at least a separation! Where are you going? And of you were going to leave me, why did you dance so beautifully around me? Why did you nourish me in the first place? " No, the tree showers its flowers onto the river deep gratefulness, and the river moves on. The wind comes and dances around the tree and moves on. And the tree gives its fragrance to the wind.
This is relating. If humanity is ever going to become grown-up, mature, this will be the way of love: people meeting, sharing, moving, a nonpossessive quality, a nondominating quality. Otherwise love becomes a power trip." (p.49-50)
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